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Finding the right person to perform your wedding ceremony

Planning a wedding can be a full-time job, what with choosing a site, ordering flowers, coordinating dress and tuxedo fittings, many couples are overwhelmed by the process. No wonder that the task of choosing the officiant frequently gets lost in the shuffle. However, choosing the right person to perform your ceremony is a very important decision - after all, they will have a huge influence on the feel and energy of the ceremony.

You will want to be certain that you find an individual (or two) who is not just willing, but eager to perform the kind of ceremony you dream of and who has a style and beliefs similar to your own. If you're planning a traditional religious ceremony this might be easy, but if you're one of the growing number of couples seeking an independent officiant, it may be much more challenging. Choosing someone who is experienced and professional is important, you'll also want them to be flexible, supportive of your desires and pleasant to work with as well. Not only will you be working closely with them to design, write and edit your ceremony, you'll be introducing them to all your wedding guests as well, so make sure they have a personality that will blend well with your family and friends. Of course, if you want the ceremony to be recognized as a legally binding contract, you'll also need to make certain that they are qualified to legally marry you in your state. Michigan law is very generous when it comes to such things, other states are less so.

Price is obviously a consideration, but be careful not to allow your budget to dictate your choices, especially when it comes to choosing the officiant who will set the tone for your entire wedding day. While many couples will choose to spend as little as possible in order to merely have "some papers signed", most couples are looking for a wedding ceremony to remember. There are lots of ways to trim a wedding budget, but skimping on an officiant shouldn't be one of them. Interview a minimum of 3 officiants in your area before selecting one. You should spend at least as much time and care selecting an officiant as you do choosing a dress or ordering a cake, and probably even more considering the potential for a poor officiant match to affect the mood and memories of the entire wedding day in unpleasant ways.

Types of Officiants

A first decision for a potential bride and groom planning a wedding ceremony is typically whether they desire a Religious ceremony or not. This vital and personal decision can often help narrow the options of wedding officiant considerably.

Civil Officiants

If you desire a Justice of the Peace, contact your local county clerk's office or the one in the county where you plan to marry. They should have a list of local Justices of the Peace who perform wedding ceremonies. You could just check your local phone book, but it's often better to get the referral from someone who knows that the JP they are sending you to is legally certified. Start by calling the ones closest to you and get a sense of their personality first, then, if you like them, ask if you can meet with them to get a better sense of the kinds of weddings they perform.

If you are looking to get married at "City Hall", finding the person to marry you is pretty easy. You just make an appointment and get married in the most efficient possible way - no long sermons or intricate vows to memorize!

Call your local city hall or courthouse and they'll tell you everything you need to know about this option.

Religious Officiants

If you are already members of a church or have a beloved clergy person you want to perform your ceremony, the decision is simple. You'll still want to meet with them and discuss the questions below to make certain that both of you are comfortable with their style.

If you have no specific clergy in mind, you'll want to think about what spiritual beliefs the two of you share and want to incorporate into your ceremony. If you are seeking a specific traditional religious ceremony, contact a local house of worship in that denomination. First, ask and make sure that their religious rules allow them to marry non-members or to perform weddings in secular settings.

Attending at least one worship service performed by each officiant you're considering will give you a sense of the different styles available, then schedule a meeting with the ones you like to make sure they are available on your date, and open to performing the type of wedding you are seeking. Like any important job, don't just give it to the first person you interview! Talk to a couple different clergy and choose the one that you are the most comfortable with.

Professional Wedding Officiants

If neither the strictly civil Justice of the Peace, nor the idea of a strictly religious clergy appeals, you might consider a professional wedding officiant. Typically, these professionals are open to providing you with a number of options and are happy to help you craft the ceremony just as YOU envision it. Many of them are open to performing weddings with or without a legal marriage certificate, same sex weddings, interfaith ceremonies and other variations on the wedding theme that other officiants won't preside over.

Questions to Ask a Potential Wedding Officiant

• Do you require premarital counseling?
• Do you provide premarital counseling?
• How much are we allowed to customize the ceremony?
• Can we write our own vows?
• Will you marry us even if we are not current members of your congregation?
• How do we become members?
• If we are of different faiths, or one of us is not religious, is that a problem?
• If one of us was married before but is now legally divorced, does your religion allow you to marry us?
• Will our non-religious friends be allowed to participate in the ceremony, including giving readings, singing, or (if appropriate) taking communion?
• How much do you charge for your services?
• How soon will we need to book our date?
• What are your policies regarding deposits?
• Can we meet you in person before we make our decision?

I will be happy to answer all of these questions for you during your free ceremony design consultation. Schedule yours today!

May you find the perfect officiant for you and may your day be everything you ever dreamed of!

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